The Rational male

Old Lies

Apparently no one has bothered to let this poor sap (I don’t know who he is) know that the “Toxic” masculinity narrative has now been replaced with “masculinity is toxic“. I find it interesting that when it comes to the mainstream societal understandings of what masculinity once was and what it is now – or what […]
The Rational male
March 16, 2018, 2:47 a.m.

Transactional vs. Validational Sex

You cannot negotiate genuine desire. This is one of my best known quotes because it resonates with so many men. There was a time in the early 2000s when I was doing peer counseling for men – most of whom were at least a decade my senior – as part of my undergraduate study and […]
The Rational male
March 8, 2018, 1:34 a.m.

Interviews and Video

I wanted to make a brief announcement here that I have created a new page for all the interviews I’ve been doing recently. It was getting a bit cluttered to keep publishing a new post after every new podcast so I’m now collecting them all on a new page ‘Interviews’ you’ll see at the top […]
The Rational male
March 4, 2018, 6:38 p.m.

What Makes a Man?

When I was compiling the material I was going to use for my second book, Preventive Medicine, I chose to use the essay Vulnerability in the hopes that I might be able to dispel one of the more egregious fantasies about masculinity – that vulnerability is in some way a strength for men. At the time I […]
The Rational male
Feb. 27, 2018, 1:21 a.m.

Good Humans

As was expected this week, there’s been an extensive and eager effort on the part our feminine-primary social order to once again further shifting the narrative of “toxic” masculinity to ‘masculinity is toxic. I addressed this in Male Control. Directly after the Las Vegas mass shooting we began to see articles from the femosphere decrying the evils of masculinity as […]
The Rational male
Feb. 20, 2018, 2:15 a.m.

No Prescriptions

On Saturday I had a great discussion with Anthony Johnson, Rian Stone (Married Red Pill Reddit) and “Carl” from Black Label Logic. The topic was a critique of the impact Dr. Jordan Peterson is having on a society of ‘lost’ (mostly) young men and how his message is affecting this generally rudderless generation of men. […]
The Rational male
Feb. 12, 2018, 10:35 p.m.

The Marriage Game

As a few of my readers know my daughter is presently a sophomore at college. Every time she reaches a new milestone in her life I have a tendency to mentally go back in time in my own life and consider how utterly different her experiences are in comparison to my own. At 19 the […]
The Rational male
Feb. 2, 2018, 11:43 p.m.

21 Convention – The Talks

The first of my 21 Convention talks from 2017 is now live on 21 University. The video linked above is the preview for my talk, ‘Hypergamy – Micro to Macro‘. Last September’s convention was an amazing experience for me and my fellow speakers and I’m planning on speaking at the 2018 convention. This was easily […]
The Rational male
Jan. 26, 2018, 9 p.m.

Thoughts on Aziz Ansari

I’m going to make a confession here; until a week ago I had no idea who Aziz Ansari was. I get he was some low limit comedian, and in today’s social environment that means he lectures an audience about social justice issues for an hour while trying to insert some humor into his act. I’ve […]
The Rational male
Jan. 24, 2018, 1:43 a.m.

Hypergamy – The Misconceptions

At the end of September last year I gave two talks at the 10th annual 21 Convention in Orlando, Florida. This probably isn’t news to any of my regular readers as it was the only in-person appearance I did last year. My first talk was a familiar one – Hypergamy; Micro to Macro – and […]
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Jan. 16, 2018, 4:52 a.m.

Dangerous Times – Part 3

In writing and editing this series for the last few weeks a lot has happened in the Future is Female movement. I’m not a big fan of awards shows for obvious reasons; they have all gone from being a celebration and acknowledgement of creativity and performance in entertainment to being little more than a stage […]
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Jan. 11, 2018, 1:27 a.m.

Dangerous Times – Part 2

The fulfillment of your own sexuality is nothing less than your battle for existence. – Pook If you’ve been wondering what I’ve been doing lately over the past week I took it upon myself to read through the 7,000 word short story “Cat Person” that’s recently gone viral. The author, 36 year old Kristen Roupenian, was […]
The Rational male
Jan. 3, 2018, 2:47 a.m.

Rollo Tomassi on Joe Rogan?

Part 2 of Dangerous Times is about fleshed out now, but I wanted to drop this video here before I publish. Want to help me get on the Joe Rogan show? My good friend Richard Cooper – a guy I’ve done numerous podcasts with – has put together a video submission call out to anyone who’s had […]
The Rational male
Dec. 30, 2017, 9:47 p.m.

Dangerous Times – Part 1

We live in a very dangerous age for men. The Blue Pill is even more of a liability today than it was in times past, because we live in an era that encourages men going all-in in their life’s investment in that conditioning. Welcome to the #MeToo era. What we’re experiencing in our social environment […]
The Rational male
Dec. 19, 2017, 12:45 a.m.

Zeroed Out

Last week I introduced a new concept in what most men can expect at some point in their lives. This is the idea of being Zeroed Out – basically men having most of a lifetime of status, financial equity, reputation, professional & educational growth, emotional investment and other metrics of men’s life equity being erased. […]
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Dec. 11, 2017, 11:06 p.m.

Men and Suicide

Before I launch in here today I need to confess that this post has been in my drafts folder for a while now. As most of my readers are aware I’ve known two personal friends who’ve taken their own lives as a result of having their Blue Pill conditioned beliefs set them on a path […]
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Dec. 2, 2017, 12:53 a.m.

The Creep – Part 3

One of the parts of our evolved, human mental firmware is a need to see order in the chaotic. Pattern recognition in humans seems likely to have been a selected-for trait that aided in our survival in the past. Thus, we look for consistencies that help us predict what will likely come to be or […]
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Nov. 26, 2017, 12:37 a.m.

The Creep – Part 2

Just so we’re clear here, yes, I get that there are a lot of ways to take the term ‘creepy’. In last week’s essay I wanted to dig into what women claim is ‘creepy’ and how this term is really another illustration of ambiguous fem-speak rooted in how a guy makes a woman feel. Furthermore, […]
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Nov. 14, 2017, 1:21 a.m.

The ‘Creep’ – Part 1

What makes a guy “creepy”? For almost every woman I polled in researching this essay what makes a guy ‘creepy’ is the inability of a guy to ‘take a hint’. Most seemed to believe that there was some ‘obvious’ (to them) boundary that ‘creepy’ men always crossed that made them into creeps. If that sounds […]
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Nov. 9, 2017, 11:46 p.m.

Riff on This

A week ago I had a reader send me a link to this helpful list of “mother-may-I’s” and feminine-primary etiquette by Nicole Silverberg. Presently I’ve got a very in-depth essay in the works about exactly this shifting of the ‘toxic’ masculinity narrative to one that presumes all forms of masculinity are inherently toxic. However, as a prelude I […]
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Oct. 27, 2017, 11:04 p.m.