Random Xpat Rantings


I used to be an angel, until my mask fell off

Chat conversation today with a friendly attractive girl who has a boyfriend: What’s her name? The girl with the long …

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Random Xpat Rantings
Nov. 13, 2017, 6 p.m.

Social and romantic expectations are insidious infections of the Blob

I had a great day at the beach today. I just lay there, enjoying a fantastic parade of eye candy, …

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Nov. 13, 2017, 2:39 a.m.

It’s time to say it. Don’t pan-handle with your questions.

Probably a cool guy asking a normal question asks: Are you ok with a woman cheating on you? Just wondering. …

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Nov. 13, 2017, 1:33 a.m.

Why calling her a bitch makes you love and respect her MORE

Most of us are not terribly interested in growing up. Society remains at a child’s level of development, and we …

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Nov. 11, 2017, 8:35 p.m.

Why calling her a bitch makes you love and respect her MORE

Most of us are not terribly interested in growing up. Society remains at a child’s level of development, and we …

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Nov. 10, 2017, 6:16 p.m.

The Ketamines

I’ve been doing ketamine as a crohn’s treatment, which is but one of many of it’s flavors of off label …

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Nov. 9, 2017, 11:14 p.m.

Always insightful commentor Renfrew wrote: Lastly, there is a whole conversation to be had, X, around the sense you express …

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Nov. 7, 2017, 3:39 p.m.

We are all a little bit BPD, but that’s not my business.

Mike said: <blockquote>If you want to chew on something worthwhile, figure out what it is about yourself, that makes you …

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Nov. 7, 2017, 8:41 a.m.

The more she needed reassurance the more I wanted to pull away.

This is a long rambling diary post. I’m not going to bother to edit it. It’s not thoughtful, well crafted …

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Nov. 6, 2017, 11:31 a.m.

A big part of the pleasure of writing is the feeling of communion. Communion is an important drug, social need, …

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Oct. 6, 2017, 12:10 a.m.

Strong racism in SEA

The stories I could tell about racism in SEA.   I once required a lawyer in Thailand, and had to …

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Oct. 5, 2017, 1:04 a.m.

Strong Racism in SEA

The stories I could tell about racism in SEA. I once required a lawyer in Thailand, and had to hire …

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Oct. 5, 2017, 1:03 a.m.

Not sure if I’m dying.

In my monastery days one of the monks I lived with had a line that always cracked him up. Whenever …

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Oct. 1, 2017, 8:11 p.m.

Christopher Hitchens as penultimate comedian

I can’t confide in them. We can’t commiserate or rejoice or share experiences or silences. They aren’t all good people. …

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Aug. 11, 2017, 6:50 a.m.

Must read Google memo on gender

Reply to public response and misrepresentation I value diversity and inclusion, am not denying that sexism exists, and don’t endorse …

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Aug. 8, 2017, 2:18 a.m.

Introduction to maitri

I just woke from a dream where I was explaining the meditation practice that I’d been doing. “I was feeling …

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Aug. 5, 2017, 2:36 a.m.

How noticing how grief works can unlock your inner potential

From this thread: Yes, if you read my post carefully, you’ll see that I took pains, many times, to say …

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Aug. 4, 2017, 4:08 a.m.

Why I love the idea of marriage, and never will.

Nash said: — Most marriages end in divorce — Most married folks don’t have sex — I like variety — …

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Aug. 3, 2017, 4:28 a.m.

Is grief avoidable? The case against find and fuck.

Having friends, the support of a rounded lifestyle, other women, and a steady supply of regular sex all helps us …

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July 22, 2017, 6:53 p.m.

Growing sexual chemistry

Last night I watched the biography of Heath Ledger. Heath apparently was a very talented and smart guy who generally …

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July 17, 2017, 4:03 p.m.